Esme and Francis have been married for 10 years and have an eight year old daughter together. Patrick has previously been married and has two teenage children who live with their birth mother but maintain frequent contact with him. Esme was a stay at home mum and Francis worked full time.
Esme and Francis were approved adopters however after waiting for some time for a placement felt that a younger child would best suit the needs of their family and began to consider concurrency as a way of meeting this need. They attended information evening and the concurrency training day and the fact that concurrent planning placed the needs of the child first resonated strongly with them. They began to think about the needs of the child above their own wishes and needs to adopt. They felt as adults they could take the strain for the child and manage the uncertainty. Both had a strong faith base and were able to ‘trust the process’ through the fostering phase of the placement.
Their young daughter was able to understand that they as a family would be caring for a child for a period of time and that their child ultimately may return to birth parents.
The couple formed positive relationships with the child’s birth mother and were empathetic and considerate towards her. The child in their care is now subject to adoption regulations. The birth mother has said that she “couldn’t wish for better parents for her son” and is supportive of the placement.